There’s nothing worse than looking around at your friends and colleagues and seeing them sailing through life whilst you’re struggling to tread water. You missed that promotion, your partner just broke up with you and despite all your efforts to eat healthy and go to the gym you never seem to quite make it there.
But don’t fear – we have all been there! The good news is that life is repairable and if things aren’t good one day you get to have another go the next morning when you wake up. By making some small changes you can be on your way from feeling hectic and chaotic to cool, calm and collected in no time at all.
Here’s 5 tips on how…
1) Take small steps
The most common mistake people make when they’re trying to get their shit together is to try and do everything at once. Rome wasn’t built in a day. You’re not going to overhaul any area of your life in a few hours so the sooner you accept that the better.
Instead, focus on one area at a time and decide on a few key steps in bite sized chunks. Set a realistic time frame and stick to it.
For example, if you want to start leading a more active lifestyle pick something you enjoy doing and begin with a small number of sessions per week. If going to the gym is your thing then don’t start of with 6 days a week trying to lift maximum weight and reps. Start with a small achievable number like 2 sessions and build up from there. Once you get the bug for it you’ll start to enjoy it and find yourself building momentum without it being a chore.
2) Set your alarm 20 minutes early but don’t hit snooze
If you start the day behind, guess what – you’ll be chasing your tail the whole day.
So, if you’re literally always rushing in the morning, you need to accept the fact that your wake-up time is not a realistic one. Give yourself an extra 20 minutes to prevent that mad rush and start the day feeling a little less rushed and a little more composed.
3) Learn to say no
The simplest way to help sort out your life and get your s**t together is starting to say no. This may initially seem challenging but with some practice you may find you start to get pretty good at it! Don’t over promise or overbook yourself. Tempting as it is to say yes to everything sometimes you just have to accept that it’s ok to say no.
You don’t have to go to every invite or feel pressured into doing stuff that you don’t want to simply to avoid hurting people’s feelings.
By starting to say no to more stuff that you really don’t want to or don’t have the time to do you’ll suddenly find yourself with more time, more money in your pocket and a little clearer in your head.
4) Assume something is always going to come up and leave 10 minutes early for everything
It’s so tempting to wait until the last minute to get to where you need. But allowing yourself ample time to get there not only ensures you’ll be there on time (safely!), but it will also save you a lot of stress and panicking in case something does come up.
This shouldn’t just be reserved for special important things like job interviews. Build it into your everyday life. You can pretty much guarantee that even on a ‘normal’ day there may be extra traffic or an accident or a phone call – just something that slows you down.
5) Keep track of your finances and don’t spend money you don’t have
Ok – so maybe you don’t have thousands or even hundreds in your savings account. In fact, you may not even have a savings account and if that’s the case it’s time to get one. The first step to managing your finances is monitoring them.
Being savvy with money is something that although we want to ignore, is never going to change. So rather than spending beyond your means without realising – keep track of what you have to spend and budget each week / month. It may sound simple but you’ll be pleasantly surprised at how you remove stress and feel more peaceful knowing how much is in your account. It also makes you a lot more accountable and less likely to overspend if you can already see how you’re tracking.